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HOW DID YOU GET STARTED?
Bob came home one day and asked me if I had ever considered swinging. I asked him "swinging what?", thinking he was talking about a swingset. Little did I know! He then proceeded to dig out a few magazines he had picked up and asked if perhaps I might be interested. This was the first time I had heard that people actually did this. I was a bit taken back, but curious nevertheless.

He told me he had been talking online with a couple (B & F) and they wanted to meet us. He promised we could go meet them and then go home. There was no commitment on either of our parts. My initial reaction was I was scared to death, but Bob said B was very nice and bi and said if I just wanted to talk to her first to call. Interest was sparked.   Bob called and handed me the phone. I was reassured by B that we would simply meet for dinner, no commitments. She told me a bit about her. Mainly that she was bi and that intrigued me. I had several bi relationships in the past and the idea of the bi experiences with Bob watching excited me. A few days later, we met them for dinner.

I think it took me 3 hours to figure out what to wear for dinner. I hadn't been this nervous since High School. We arrived at the restaurant and B & F had a hug and a rose bud for me. We easily fell into a wonderful conversation about their adventures in the lifestyle. When it was time to leave, I was sorry to say good bye. We hugged and kissed in the parking lot and made promises to get together soon.

The next weekend B & F invited us to their home for dinner and to watch a movie. This time I was nervous again, but also excited. We had a great relaxing dinner and afterwards F asked me if I would feel comfortable watching an x rated movie. I assured him that I would enjoy it. As we sat in the living room watching the hot scenes on the TV screen. B & F started to caress each other, while Bob and I snuggled and watch with interest. Soon Betsy told me that she gives great massages and had wonderful oils. She asked if she could give me a massage. After I said yes she took my hand and we went into the bedroom where she lit some candles and had me lay down on the bed. She slowly took off my blouse and skirt, leaving on my bra and underwear so I would feel comfortable. When things started to heat up, the guys wandered down the hall and asked if they could join us. By this time, I didn't hesitate one minute!

After this great evening, we were together many times. We had dinner at each other's homes, went to movies together, out to the theater and to restaurants. We developed a great friendship that the sex just enhanced. B & F introduced us to more of their friends and soon our social calendar exploded and we were invited to our first house party.

This next step was another stretch for me. There would be a dozen or so couples there. We called the host and hostess up and said we would like to come to the party but this would be our first party. They invited us over for coffee to meet them ahead of time. D & MJ were great at making us feel comfortable. They explained to us about their experiences in the lifestyle and what to expect at the party. They also told us that if we didn?t want to do anything, we simply needed to say no.

It took me probably 6 hours this time to pick out what to wear! We arrived for the party and D & MJ introduced us to several people there. B & F stayed by our sides making sure we were comfortable. We didn?t do much that first evening but watch. But boy oh boy what interesting sites. At one point, we glanced into the living room and couldn't believe the sites we saw. Not once throughout the evening did we feel pressured into doing anything we didn't want to. When I was asked to participate, I simply said I was taking baby steps and not quite ready to jump in yet. When we went home, we had the most incredible evening of lovemaking.

After our first party, we felt that this was the right thing for us. The people we had met so far were the warmest, friendliest folks we had ever met.

DON'T YOU GET JEALOUS AT ALL?
There is nothing for us to be jealous about. Neither of us are looking for anyone to replace the other. This is something we do together?.as a couple. It takes a while before you "get it" What we mean is that it takes a while before you understand that when we are playing with other people, there are no emotions involved. Bob is fond of saying that only he makes love to me. This is true for both of us. It's just all about fun, its just sex, recreational sex. Bob also says that its our hobby, we don't like to build model airplanes or collect stamps. We both love sex.

I JUST WANT TO BE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, IS THAT OK?
When we began this lifestyle, that's what I wanted too. There are many couples in which the wife wants to play with another woman and just have the husbands watch. It depends on what the other people's rules are. Bob and I had a set of rules that we constantly revised and in fact still revise. But communication is the key. Talk , talk , talk. In fact, I think one of the greatest benefits of being in the lifestyle is your increased ability to talk with your partner. Its important that you set up some guidelines for yourselves. The most important things is to be upfront with the people you meet so that you do not lead them on. Most everyone is understanding and remember, we were all new once.

WHAT IF I SEE SOMEONE I KNOW THERE?
Remember they are there for the same reason you are. Discretion is of the utmost importance to anyone in the lifestyle. There is a common bond that is evident and everyone respects everyone else's privacy. No one advertises that they are or that anyone else is a member.

HOW DO I MEET PEOPLE AT THE CLUB?
It is a very social atmosphere. Everyone in very friendly. For the first-timer, it may seem cliquish, but that is only because there are many regulars and they know each other. Our members make a genuine effort to meet the new folks. We have themes for our parties and its always a good conversation starter. Also participate in the mingle games we play. We always a have social orientation at 7 pm the evening of the party. This is required for new people to attend, but its also a great way to meet people in a smaller group. You just have to be a little social. Sometimes you meet people just on the dance floor. A look, a smile..or even a soft brush often begins a conversation. It's easy to make friends and meet new people.

MY HUSBAND WON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE IF ANOTHER MAN APPROACHES ME. HOW DO WE HANDLE THAT?
It's an unwritten rule that women rule in the lifestyle. One of the best parts about going to a club is that they are not "meat markets" like all the other straight clubs. Most men are not aggressive, even the single men and people generally move about as a couple. There are exceptions as there are to any rule.

IS IT OKAY IF WE DON'T "DO" ANYTHING?
The golden rule of our club and any other lifestyle event or club that I've ever been to has always been the "No means No." Before you attend any event, you must communicate with each other and set up some ground rules and a way to signal to your partner if you want to proceed or if you don't! It is very important to set up your ground rules so no one is put on the spot if a situation comes up. Take small steps, don't leap into anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Many people will attend a dance and that's it. Just the situation of being there and watching the crowd is very erotic and makes for a fun evening when the two of you get home. No one is keeping a scorecard on you.

WHAT ARE YOUR RULES FOR EACH OTHER?
Our rules change as we are in the lifestyle longer, yours will too. One of our first rules was that no matter what we did during the evening, we always ended it in each other arms. We also make sure that the other is comfortable with the couple before we do anything. We have a secret code word that we use to give the go ahead to each other. LOL We like to play together within arms reach of each other, but its not a die cast rule. It might be for you and it used to be for us in the beginning. We don't do "mercy fucks". If Bob is dying for the woman in the couple and I just don't get along with the guy, we'll pass. We never say why, just no thank you. We've found when you try to explain, that's what leads to ill feelings. We always use condoms with other partners.

You'll have to discuss what's good for you and make your own set of rules.

MY WIFE IS NOT INTERESTED. HOW CAN I GET HER TO THE CLUB?
You can't, if she is not interested in going. That is not to say that there are not ways to bring it up in conversation. Perhaps you can tell her about the lifestyle. Remember its something you want to explore together. We firmly believe that "Swingers don't Cheat and Cheaters don't Swing." Perhaps find out how she feels about going and just observing and I will be glad to talk with her if she has questions.

In my experience, there are two types of couples who go to the clubs:

Couples very much in love and who wish to explore new experiences 
Couples whose marriage is on the rocks and who think this lifestyle will fix things 
#2 never works.

WHAT ABOUT SINGLE MEN?
We are one of the few clubs that will invite single gentlemen to our club. We have specific guidelines for them and limit the number, keeping a close eye on the ratio. There is definitely a place in the lifestyle for single males. There is also a vast majority of single men who believe in "The Myth." The myth is that all swingers want a single male to join them. The truth is that there are a few, but they are only a percentage.

We demand that the single men who attend our dances are respectful and understand how often couples are bothered by rude single males. To find out more about our philosophy, read my article entitled "Single Men Do Meet Couples".

I AM A SINGLE MALE. CAN YOU SET ME UP WITH A SINGLE GIRL IN THE LIFESTYLE?
This might be the #1 most asked question. No we can't do this. Attend the dances, smile, be respectful, be honest, maybe it will happen.

CAN WE FIND SINGLE BI-FEMALES AT THE CLUB?
And this is #2. Yes, there are some single females there, but they are unique like unicorns. Some are looking for couples, some are just looking to meet other females. If you are interested in just female play, it is a lot easier to find a couple just like yourselves who are into just "female play" where the men don't participate.

WHAT ABOUT HIV?
We all know that the AIDS virus is transmitted through body fluids. The only way to be sure you're safe is never to have sex at all! (and don't use IV drug, etc.) However, we know that's not reality! If you agree to both use condoms, that will not totally eliminate the risk. It will help, but you need to also consider using dental dams, condoms or saran wrap when having oral sex as well. (What if you have a cut in your mouth and you have oral sex with an infected person?) A lot of couples today are deciding not to have any intercourse with other people to be safer. It's a life and death decision that you're dealing with here, so don't belittle it. Some couples say that you have just as good a chance of being hit by a bus, and maybe they're right. However, why would you take a risk that you could avoid so simply? You are talking about your lives, you know.

I have found that within the lifestyle most people do take precautions and those that don't are often shunned. But this is a personal decision and neither Bob nor I can or will police what you do privately.

IS EVERYONE GORGEOUS IN THE LIFESTYLE?
Boy, was this a big question for me when I got started! The answer is no. I am a BBW and Bob is not Ken, but we've done just fine. Most swingers are regular people. We all take very good care of ourselves, but the average age of the lifestyler is 30-50 ish. Our advice to you is this: we understand that you are concerned about how you look, but if you are considering swinging, make friends first. It's a lot more comfortable to be friends than just doing people you don't know.

HOW DID THE CLUB GET STARTED?
After we attended our first party, things spiraled. We met more and more folks and become more and more popular. D & MJ became great friends. D & MJ continued to have parties in their home every other month and started to have parties on their off month. Our last house party was over 50 people. A bit large for our home!. We decided along with D & MJ to start a club together and to rent a facility in which to hold parties.

We became popular quickly. D & MJ then decided to move out of the area. B. The club has changed in recent years. We started out meeting in townhouses. There was no dance area, just friendly folks. Today we have over 350 member couples. We continue to listen to our members advice. And we still believe that our members make the club. 
 
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